Realistic Divorce Expectations

Learn About Having Realistic Divorce Expectations When Searching For A Potential Attorney

Partner with an attorney that gives you realistic divorce expectations during the process. Tanya L. Freeman, an experienced divorce attorney in New Jersey explains the importance in this educational video.

As you shop for an attorney, it is important that you partner with someone who clearly states realistic expectations. Of course, you have come to your consultation with a litany of important, urgent questions. You have legal matters in your life that you want to run by this attorney in order to gauge her or his response. You want someone who will give you a realistic expectation and not necessarily the answer that he or she thinks you want to hear. An attorney has this fine line to walk. Obviously, we all want to bring in business; we all want to close the deal and bring a new divorce into our firm. At the same time, I think we have a duty to a potential client to give her or him realistic expectations.

A common example of the cases I have taken involves wage earners who come into my office, declaring they do not want to pay alimony. If a person’s spouse has not worked in ten years, and that person states to an attorney, “I absolutely do not want to pay alimony,” some attorneys will give a waffling response such, “I will work on that. We will see what happens.” That is not a real expectation; this is an attorney who wants the client to pay a retainer. In the end, when a judge orders the client to pay alimony, the attorney may apologize, but the apology will come far too late.

You want an attorney who will level the playing field but give you an accurate, honest answer. If a potential client’s spouse has not worked in ten years, the odds are that the client will be required to pay alimony, absent extraordinary circumstances. Though this is a more matter-of-fact response, it is much more helpful because it is closer to likely outcome of the case. Listen out for the attorney who says what you want to hear versus the attorney who gives you a blunt yet realistic answer that will closely mirror the outcome of your case.